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A Letter For You

A few days ago my middle child turned seven years old. This week's blog post is the letter I wrote to him.


Dear Emery,

Today you turned seven years old! No, I didn’t forget. I have teased you for the last few days by saying that you will turn five soon, but I always knew which birthday this is for you.

I remember the day you were born at home. Your strong mom brought you into this world at our place on 81st and Luella, without using drugs to numb the pain. We had the help of a midwife and a doula. Your grandmother Nowanna and I cried tears of joy when we heard you cry and saw your face for the first time.

For a few weeks, you have reminded every person, animal, and thing willing to listen that your birthday is today. You told our neighbors, the stray dogs that hang out on our block, and every one of your teachers and friends at school to not forget your special day. We are happy to celebrate your life with you on this day in Antigua.

Your mom and I wanted to surprise you and your classmates with cupcakes at school. Unfortunately, we drove over a nail and got a flat tire. I put the spare on, but it took longer than expected, and we missed your snack time.

Your mom and I remained determined not to miss your special day. Our determination explains how we managed to get to your school before lunch and drop off the treats with your teacher. You cannot eat cupcakes, so we brought you a bag of your favorite plantain chips.

It was short, simple, and perfect. Your teacher excused you from the guest presentation taking place in your classroom. You came outside, and we sang our three birthday songs to you.

As I tell you every day, I want you to know that I love you. From your health challenges to learning Spanish in record time, I want you to know that you are a special kid with parents who are proud to call you son. I named you after my father for a reason.

You are a leader and let me remind you, Emery means industrious leader. Similar to my father, I expect you to do your best in whatever you choose to do with your life. More reading books and less watching Ryan ToysReview on YouTube is critical to the achievement of your dreams.

Continue always to be true to yourself. If everyone is watching TV, it is not uncommon for you to want to go outside and play. When we finish eating, it is not unusual for you to want two or three more plates of food- You love to eat): Sometimes the best leaders are individuals who decide to go against the grain.

Did you know that I have my grandfather's name? When you were born, I had this feeling it was best also to name you after my father. We come from a legacy of men who worked hard and sacrificed plenty to take care of ourselves, impact our communities, and provide for our families. Without a doubt, I know that you will live up to your name.

Happy Birthday again! I love you



If you're a dad and made time to read this letter, thank you! Please also use today to tell your son or daughter that you love them. We don't have to wait for birthdays or special occasions to express love for our children. You can also take it a step further by supporting a fellow father and buying my new book released yesterday!- (sorry, I had to slide that in- I am really excited) Click here now to purchase.


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